I am a good friend of Chris DaSilva, a friend of Chad's. I adore Clinton and have shopped in the Pender's store many times. I was at the last band performance last August. Chad knew my daughter Allyson very briefly when she and Chris were together. When I lost my daughter Allyson in May '03, Mrs. Pender was so nice to me when I came into the store and told her about Allyson. She told Chad, and I was able to reconnect with my dear friend, Chris. The Penders always appeared to be an incredibly generous, kind, and loving family. I was frankly envious that they all shared each other's company at a time when my life was fractured by the death of my daughter on a day in May (26th). Great losses find their way into all of our lives. At year 3 in the process, I object to the term "move on". It is the wrong term. We "evolve" as we reinvent ourselves and our lives. Our loved one lives even more closely to us, in our hearts. As we make future choices, we are inspired by the love we shared with our lost family member. We are sensitive to the losses of others and commit ourselves to reaching out. We embrace those around us daily and love "in the moment" for that is all that is guaranteed.
My thoughts and prayers are with the Pender family.</b></font><br><br>
